How to Get a Baddie

A Real One, Not Just an IG Like

Author

christopher bennett
June 28, 2025

Every dude wants a baddie, but not every dude can handle one. We're not talking about a pretty face and a thirst trap. A real baddie is pressure. She’s got her own money, her own goals, her own vibe — and she’s not checking for a man unless he’s bringing more than just looks.

If you want a woman who turns heads when she walks in, holds herself like a queen, and makes your soul say Damn — you’ve got to come correct.

This isn’t a guide on how to fake it. This is about how to become the kind of man that baddies chase.

1. Fix Your Energy First

Before you even look her way, check your energy. It speaks louder than your outfit, your car, or your captions. A baddie is an energy reader. She can spot insecurity, laziness, or fake confidence a mile away.

Are you building something?

Do you respect yourself?

Would you date you?

If the answer’s no — start there. A baddie doesn’t want a fan. She wants a man.

2. Stimulate Her Mind, Not Just Her Body

Telling her she’s fine? Basic. A hundred guys do that before noon. What makes you unforgettable?

Talk about something different. Ask her what drives her. Challenge her perspective. Leave her thinking about that convo long after you’re gone.

Sexy is surface. Depth is dangerous — that’s how you stand out.

3. Your Hustle is Your Cologne

Money isn’t everything, but purpose is. A baddie is attracted to ambition — the kind that smells like early mornings and tunnel vision.

You don’t have to be at the top yet, but you better be on your way. No woman with vision wants to build with a man who's comfortable standing still.

You don’t need to flex. Let your grind speak.

4. Presentation is Power

She notices everything — your skin, your scent, your vibe, your voice. She’s watching how you carry yourself before you even say a word.

Skin clean?

Breath fresh?

Clothes fit right?

Shoes telling the story?

Don’t dress for attention. Dress like someone who commands respect. You are the brand — represent it.

5. Stop Playing Safe in the DMs

Wyd? is lazy. Hey is a red flag. Come with some sauce.

Try:

You popped up on my feed — I felt that energy. What’s your story?

You look like someone who handles pressure well. Am I wrong?

Be intentional. Be bold. Don’t chase — attract.

6. Nonchalance Over Neediness

A baddie doesn’t fold for pressure — she watches how you move. Don’t blow her up. Don’t try to prove your worth. Just be it.

Stay on your mission

Let her miss you

Don’t chase every curve that smiles at you

When you're focused, she’s curious. When you're needy, she’s gone.

7. Be Her Peace, Not Her Project

She doesn’t want to fix you. She wants to feel safe around you — mentally, emotionally, spiritually. Your vibe should be a reset, not a risk.

Can she talk to you without feeling judged?
Can she be soft around your masculinity?
Can you lead without controlling?

That’s how you earn loyalty in a world full of noise.

Final Word: You Don’t Catch a Baddie — You Align With One

You don’t chase her. You become her mirror.

Baddies are attracted to men who are already becoming the version of themselves they don’t need to explain. The ones who show up consistent, confident, and locked in.

So become that man. And when you do — you won’t need game. Your presence will be enough.