Texting is the new love language. It’s where relationships start, where connections grow, and—let’s be real—where a lot of them crash and burn. If you’ve ever felt like women just get texting better than men, you’re not imagining things.
Here’s why women usually come out on top—and how men can close the gap.
Why Women Often Win at Texting
They Bring More Energy
A woman might send a full story about her day, sprinkle in emojis, and end with a question to keep the flow going. A man might hit you with: sup. Big difference.
They Use Emotion Better
Women naturally weave feeling into their words—whether that’s excitement, curiosity, or care. It makes the text feel warm and alive.
They Pay Attention
If you mention you’ve got a job interview tomorrow, she’ll text back: Good luck tomorrow, you got this . Men sometimes forget to follow up. That little detail matters.
They Keep Conversations Moving
Women are rarely afraid to double-text or add a funny meme. Men, on the other hand, often go quiet and leave the convo hanging.
How Men Can Level Up
Being a strong texter isn’t about spamming or overdoing it. It’s about connecting better. Here’s how:
Add More Than One Word
Replace k or bet with something that shows thought. Even Sounds good, I’ll bring drinks too feels more engaging.
Use Emojis or Gifs (Strategically)
A simple or makes your tone clear and keeps you from sounding cold. Don’t be scared of them.
Ask Better Questions
Instead of wyd, try: What’s been the best part of your day so far? It gives her something real to respond to.
Match Her Energy
If she’s sending longer texts, send more than one-liners back. If she’s playful, lean into that. Texting is about rhythm.
Be Clear Instead of Dry
One-word answers kill conversations. If you’re busy, just say: Can’t talk now, but I’ll text later. That’s way better than leaving her hanging.
Show You Care With Details
Remember what she said last time. How was that workout you were excited about? Little things = big wins.
Final Word
Women are often better texters because they bring energy, emotion, and consistency. But men don’t have to fall behind. With a few small changes—longer replies, better questions, and a little more care—you can flip the script and become the kind of texter people actually look forward to hearing from.
Before Anything Else: Focus on Yourself
Here’s the truth—texting, like everything else in life, is easier and more effective when you’re confident and grounded in yourself. If you don’t depend on yourself first, it’s easy to overthink or rely on external validation. The key is building your own habits, mindset, and independence.
That’s exactly what my audiobook Waiting On Who Do It Yourself is about. It’s designed to help you grow, build self-reliance, and own your life, so everything you do—from texting to career moves—comes from a place of strength.
